Christian pop star, Trey Pearson, has written a letter to his fans in which he admits that he is gay. As leader of the rock group, Everyday Sunday, he may certainly take some criticism from his listeners and others in the industry, and the music group may even be shunned from this particular music genre. His band has been quite successful in the Christian music charts, and the song, Best Night Of Our Lives, also broke the Billboard Top 200. However, Pearson feels he had to be true to himself at this time.
“I grew up in a very conservative Christian home where I was taught that my sexual orientation was a matter of choice, and had put all my faith into that. I had never before admitted to myself that I was gay, let alone to anyone else. I never wanted to be gay. I was scared of what God would think and what all of these people I loved would think about me,” the 35-year-old wrote. “But if this honesty with myself about who I am, and who I was made by God to be, doesn’t constitute as the peace that passes all understanding, then I don’t know what does. It is like this weight I have been carrying my whole life has been lifted from me, and I have never felt such freedom.”
Pearson also spoke about his wife and how difficult being married to a woman has been for him and his entire family.
“When Lauren and I got married, I committed to loving her to the best of my ability, and I had the full intention of spending the rest of my life with her. Despite our best efforts, however, I have come to accept that there is nothing that is going to change who I am…While I regret the way I was taught to handle this growing up, how much it has hurt me and the unintentional pain I have brought Lauren, I wouldn’t have the friendship I now have with her, and we wouldn’t have our two amazing, beautiful children. But if I keep trying to push this down it will end up hurting her even more.”
Trey adds: “I am never going to be able to change how I am, and no matter how healthy our relationship becomes, it’s never going to change what I know deep down: that I am gay. Lauren has been the most supportive, understanding, loving and gracious person I could ever ask for, as I have come to face this. And now I am trying to figure out how to co-parent while being her friend, and how to raise our children.”
He hopes he will be offered grace by his fans and colleagues in the music world. “I hope people will hear my heart, and that I will still be loved. I’m still the same guy, with the same heart, who wants to love God and love people with everything I have.”
He told the Washington Post on Tuesday that “I think a lot of these younger people that are part of the industry want to have the conversation. Hopefully I can be a part of making that difference.”
Well, we definitely hope that he is part of the change too!